PART 2: What to Expect When You're Not Expecting- My Journey Back to Surfing Postpartum.

There is a few other things. I started remembering little bits after I wrote the first.

1.) Bikin Confusion

During my first pregnancy, I invested in my usual bikinis in anticipation of my return to the beach. However, I quickly realized that what once fit perfectly no longer suited my changing body. While I acknowledge that changes in body shape can balance out over time, I felt that to give my best, I needed bikini tops that could adjust to my new dimensions. Unfortunately, the fixed styles did not offer the flexibility I required. It took me quite some time to rediscover styles that I felt comfortable in. Similar to the experience I had with surfboards, I found that my bikinis and wetsuits fit differently. from day to day.

2.) F*ck INSTAGRAM

Let’s set the record straight: the images we see online are often heavily manipulated, and 98% of what’s out there doesn’t give a true representation of reality. It’s time to embrace our bodies and recognize that they are powerful and beautiful in their own right.

Comparing ourselves to others is a dead end on our healing journeys. You are extraordinary; you’re living your unique human design, and that in itself is something to celebrate. Yes, you have room to improve, but it's essential to give yourself the grace you deserve.

I know how it feels to be hard on ourselves, especially when we see bodies that we admire or hear compliments that highlight features we wish we had. But let’s be real: those images and comments often do more harm than good. They contribute to a distorted view of beauty that doesn’t benefit anyone. So let's shift the narrative. You’re a beautiful goddess, and it’s time to own it with confidence and pride! Embrace who you are and let go of any unrealistic standards. You’ve got this! Let’s set the record straight: the images we see online are often heavily manipulated, and 98% of what’s out there doesn’t give a true representation of reality. It’s time to embrace our own bodies and recognize that they are powerful and beautiful in their own right.

If you're anything like me, embracing the challenges of body dysmorphia and being tough on yourself, confidently step away from Instagram for your own growth.

3.)Mental Health:

This is perhaps the most important message I could share, and I should have posted it first. If you're struggling with postpartum depression, please reach out to me, to someone in this community, or to anyone in your local network. Don't let anyone make you feel like they understand what you're going through or that you don't deserve to feel the way you do. This period is incredibly challenging; it's when your hormones experience their most significant fluctuations.

I've often turned to surfing when I've needed a break, a moment of peace, or a chance to reconnect with myself. However, I've learned that sometimes, instead of bringing the relief I seek, it can turn into an unnecessary battle for waves. Choose your battles wisely. If the surf is crowded and you're having a tough day, consider going for a run instead. There have been times when I returned from surfing feeling more upset than when I went out, which made my day much harder. It may look fun, but it can be detrimental.

Reflect on your own experiences, but I wanted to share my journey. On days when I really struggled, regardless of the excitement around waves or the hype in the community, I found it helpful to engage in activities that allowed me to step away from people, from demands, and from competition. This helped me regain my center so I could return to my family in a better state of mind. Living on the North Shore of Oahu, I’ve witnessed surfing bring out the worst in people, including myself. While it doesn’t always happen, I noticed that on tough days, it often harmed me more than it helped. Embrace your path, and prioritize your well-being above all.

4.0 VIDEO HELL:

I absolutely love capturing footage of myself while surfing. It really helps me improve and reflect on my technique. I know this might not resonate with everyone, but I wanted to share my experience. The other day, I was being filmed, and I was filled with excitement and anticipation, but my nerves got the best of me, and I ended up having a really tough session. It was hard to watch the footage afterward, especially when I focused on how I looked on the wave. There’s something so challenging about seeing yourself not perform at the level you know you’re capable of; it can feel discouraging.

I thought I would feel proud of my progress, but instead, it was a bit painful. I realized I needed to let go of that pressure, embrace the enjoyment of the moment, and truly appreciate my body for what it can do. As soon as I shifted my mindset to just having fun out there, I started catching some great waves and ended up with some awesome clips to show for it.

My boyfriend is an incredibly talented pro surfer, and his footage is nothing short of magical—he captures so much beauty and gets around 100 clips in just a week! Sometimes, it’s hard for me to watch his highlights. I genuinely feel happy for him, but I recognize that I need to manage my own feelings about it, much like how I try to limit my time on Instagram. It’s an ongoing journey for me, and I’m learning to embrace the process.

5.) A Cup-D Cup:

You’re definitely not alone in this! It can be pretty surprising to find yourself with one breast that’s a small A cup and the other that’s a large D cup. It’s such a unique situation, and it's strange how it feels to move differently when you’re trying to turn. It can feel a bit odd and throw you off!!!!!! I I laughed my ass off the first time I felt it. I was doing a turn and felt my bood still in the air when I landed my turn, and then a bunch of bounces on one side after. People were asking me what was so funny when I got back out, and I straight up told them. The guys all through it were as funny as I was, and the girls looked truly horrified. It was funny.

I know it might seem like a small thing, but it’s completely normal to feel almost embarrassed by it. Many people might be going through the same experience, even if they don’t talk about it. Just remember, it’s all part of getting used to changes in your body, and it’s okay to have those feelings. With time, everything tends to settle down, and you’ll find your rhythm again. Just embrace this journey—it’s part of what makes you, you!

6.) Butt Bone Grind:

Your butt bone, not your spinal bone, but the bottom pelvis. I believe the correct name for it is your Pelvic Arch. Oh man...that thing grinds into your board differently. Thankfully, the water gives you some float but that arch gets sore. I never had that before. I think that's what hurts when you ride horses. I don't think there is anything you can do, it's much like all the other things, gets better with time. But it was something I felt today surfing that I forgot to mention.

7.) Small Talk-NOPE

I have limited time to surf, and when I'm out there, I’m on a mission It might sound a bit direct, but I refuse to let distractions derail my focus. I do engage in quick conversations, but then I'm laser-focused on hunting for waves that others might miss. I know where I want to be in the lineup, and I'm determined to catch that set without getting stuck in one spot for too long. That's just my approach to life. And I don't deal with drama, between people or any of that. If I see it, I paddle the other way, even if the waves are not as good away from the drama.

I move with purpose, and when I connect with people, it’s usually about profound topics—like how trees communicate or how the universe is tuned into us. Small talk doesn’t hold my attention because I prefer deeper dialogues. Sometimes I feel guilty about this, but I know it’s a part of who I am. Being dyslexic has reinforced the need for quick thinking; I trust my first instinct because it's often spot on. Small talk can cause me to second-guess myself, which isn’t productive. So when I'm out there, I’m confident in my ability to ride the waves and navigate those deeper conversations that truly matter.

Done Being Agreeable. The things I think in the water and am now saying.

Surfing is not just a sport; it embodies beauty, magic, and strength. Those who have turned it into a successful career truly excel in their craft, and I deeply admire them to no end. As many of these individuals become mothers, they seek to create a meaningful impact. Even professional women surfers express their desire to me to become a mother one day, but hope it will be in a future where motherhood is not only celebrated but championed, and will help support their kids. They want a culture that embraces this journey, but then are afraid to speak up because of their belief system, or that it's not yet accepted.

My recent experiences with Imua Moms have brought to light a significant challenge: while women are eager to engage with the issue of mothers in sports, there is a hesitancy to voice their concerns.. I understand that some may have fears about potential repercussions, such as sponsorships or being perceived as uninteresting if their message doesn't resonate. However, the path to greatness demands boldness, breaking new ground, and embracing the unknown. If we allow ourselves to be held back by the desire for agreement, our children will miss out on the transformative shift we can create in motherhood and sports.

I've faced bullying and felt different my entire life, so I’m not concerned about whether others agree with my ideas or think my experiences are pointless. What matters is that I have a vision and the courage to pursue it. The greatest minds in history were often misunderstood, yet they pressed on because their contributions were essential. It can be disheartening to see a lack of action from those who have the ability to effect change. However, I also recognize that everyone has different perspectives and motivations, and that is perfectly understandable. It is essential that we prioritize a collective approach over individual recognition in order to reshape our narrative and achieve meaningful progress. By fostering an environment that embraces the positive impact of having children, mothers can thrive before and into motherhood, rather than feeling apprehensive about potential reactions from sponsors.

I didn’t embark on this initiative in search of fame or accolades; I was driven by a compelling need to fill a significant void for many of us. While I may not have attained the visibility I initially hoped for, my commitment is to the greater good for humanity and our children. I aspire to pave the way for women in surfing, promoting sponsorship and growth, not just for myself, but for all of us, for our children. Surfing should not be a self-serving endeavor that sidelines women from an empowering narrative. Together, we can create an inclusive space where every voice is valued, enhancing the experience for everyone involved. This initiative isn’t just for a select few; it’s for us all, and/or the women who lack resources and support and are seeking guidance. Together, we can make a difference.

love,

Danielle