Danielle Zirk

My son is now four years old, and I have always prioritized being there for him. However, I recognize that my fear of leaving him for more than two hours stems from my own abandonment issues. I want to work on overcoming this fear and ensuring my son feels secure even when I'm not with him. In this work I need to do, I understand it is more my issue and not his. Don't get me wrong, he does not want me to go anywhere but I do understand how important it is for the both of us. However, one looming issue that is literally breaking my heart is giving birth and not having Imua with me.

Imua is determined to be a part of his sister's birth. He emphatically told me, "Mom, I know I'm only three, but I really want to be here with you and Gaia when it's time. Please don't leave me." And that was all I needed to decide on having a home birth, where I could be at my calmest and happiest. I know there are risks, and I have found an amazing midwife and dula who is proven to bring souls to the world in a safe and loving way. I also can't help but think of how women have been giving birth in the dirt since the beginning of time, but I also understand that there are risks. But I must say, the though of being home with my family, in my own bed, or bath sounds so easy.

I've been thinking a lot about the upcoming birth, and I am absolutely certain that the baby will arrive quickly and safely. After careful consideration, I have firmly decided to have a home birth, trusting my intuition just like I did when I continued surfing while pregnant. I wholeheartedly support both home birth and hospital birth options. While my first hospital birth was positive, but it was a little uncomfortable as it was the beginning of COVID and we were not allowed to leave the our hospital room for 4 days! We had each other and our little miracle so I was totally ok with it. The staff was amazing and kind but there is no place like home.

This time around, I couldn't even imagine having a birth experience without my son. I believe that experiencing childbirth is beneficial for a child, as it helps them understand the sacred nature of life and birth, which can lead to a deeper appreciation for the feminine in their life experience.

I acknowledge the risks associated with home birth, but I truly believe it can be a beautiful and empowering experience. I know many women who have had safe home births, but I am also aware of a few cases that were not so fortunate. However, my intuition is strongly guiding me towards choosing a home birth. What are your experiences and thoughts regarding this decision-making process?

Here is a really helpful article I read about siblings present at child birth and how it's helping children understand life on a level where we avoid lots of the bad programing that makes us fearful. I am also in the middle of reading a few articles about home birth vs. Hospital and would love to share. Stay tuned to the comments for better articles or please feel free to attach any you know of. Any advice would be so helpful. While I have my mind made up, I would love to learn more and hear from this amazing community of women about it.

Love,

Danielle